I LOVE MY OB/GYN... Love her and loved her. I have never ever felt comfortable with an OB/GYN before her. She supported me. She let me labor for 15 hours naturally before she had no choice but to do an emergency c-section due to Eoghan's heart rate which had been dropping every contraction and in the end it was dropping way to long and way to low. But she did absolutely everything including telling others to back off of me with pushing drugs and what not on me. If it would have been up to the other doctors I would not have labored at all. SO yesterday when I was going to make my appointment for normal yearly I googled her to get her number and this article below popped up. Conversation is between my best buddy /cousin and myself.
I believe everyone has a right to follow their heart. And that is what she is doing. Even if I do not understand her view point. Now I need to figure out where my heart stands.
On Thu, May 5, 2011 at 11:22 AM, katie auerback
<kthour@hotmail.com> wrote:
Good afternoon. How are you? I am good. My child is full todler now. Attitude and all. So I went to find Dr. Sorra's number to schedule my yearly and this article popped up on google. When you have a chance will you read and tell me your opinion. I am struggling with it. I thought the reason behind her not doing birthcontrool was for natural reasons. I respect her opinion but morally we have different views. I just respect your opinion. I love her as a doctor but I am pulled over her views. I love you and I hope it is not too rainy. Give me babes a kiss from me.
http://www.catholicreview.org/subpages/storyworldnew-new.aspx?action=8072
Date: Thu, 5 May 2011 21:22:29 -0500
Subject: Re:
From: salinaau
To: kthour@hotmail.com
Hmmm. She's never shared her religious views with me, but I do know that her husband works for Catholic Charities, so it kind of makes sense. I also haven't been to her since she has stopped offering the birth control options. I remember having the conversation with her and her telling me the options, but not pushing in any direction. When I asked her about natural family planning she was very knowledgeable.
I think the foundations of her belief may be different from mine, but there is nothing she says that I really disagree with. I believe sex is something that provides pleasure and closeness/bonding between two people who love and are committed to each other. I also know that sex exists for the purpose of creating life and when I am taking unnatural birth control it feels gross and I don't like it. Just because she is Catholic does not mean we have different moral beliefs, though the beliefs come from different foundations. She believes in natural birth control, the same as me.
What would you say the moral differences are between you and Dr. Sorra? I also thinks it's kind of cool that she has decided to follow what she believes in knowing that she would get a lot of shit for it.
I love you and all of our children. I'm glad we weren't on unnatural birth control and allowed our babes to enter this crazy world.
I love you to the moon and back.
Salina
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My dearest Salina,
I applaud her for her backbone and beliefs. I am not a religious person but I absolutely have no problem with other people’s faith. I guess the main thing that differs for Dr. Sorra and myself that I believe in Planned Parenthood. I think that in a world that there are so many children being born that are not wanted, (thrown in dumpsters, dropped off at orphanages, born with HIV/ addicted to drug, abused and neglected), I have a hard time with not educating woman on contraceptives. I think about my short experience in Guatemala and hearing that children are just abandoned. In a perfect world sex would be between two people that love each other and are committed to each other and are trying to create life but this is not a perfect world.
I myself am not affected by her decision due to the fact that I do not like to put hormone altering drugs in my system and am allergic(not really) to condoms but I strongly believe that option has to be out there. I am 100% against abortion for myself but I still feel strongly that the freedom still needs to be available. I do not believe it should be used as a form of birth control but there are situations (incest, rape, ECT...) that I cannot wholeheartedly say that it is not the woman’s right to decide is she can or cannot grow this being.
The thing is I have nothing personally against her. I love her. I told Greg last night I wish I just would have never read it because I have a hard time because my views are different. He said that just because she has these ideas that we do not agree with does not take away from the fact that she is an amazing doctor. And he would have wanted no one else to bring our beautiful boy into the world safely.
I agree but.... I believe that marriage does not make a happy family or good parents always. That you can be a wonderful family without that label. I believe any person can love, can fall in love with any other person no matter sex, race or religion. I believe that god does not make mistakes. I believe by now people should see that god sucks pretty badly at creating people if gay people are mistakes. God has created these people equally and out of love and they are just as capable of being a loving family as Greg and I and Jeff and you. I believe a lot of things that kind of go against her views. But I also believe that she does not judge me. I am 80% sure she knew I was not married and she treated me amazingly. Now Greg she was a little stand off of. But during my labor she was awesome to him. It is hard because all of my issues are inside of me. She has not caused it. I do not shop at Walmart because of their business choices. Who they support, how they have treated their employee's ECT. I try to be conscious. I obviously am a not even close to being 100%. I still drink starbucks. I still buy cloth that I am sure are from sweat shops. I still throw recyclables in the trash when I am too lazy to clean them.
I am going to go for my exam in June. I hope that I am brave enough to maybe talk to her for a few minutes. I guess in my head I thought she was a natural feminist. And maybe it is best I did not know this before because she would not have delivered me because I might not have given her a chance. Obviously I do judge. And it does not make me any better than people who judge the things that I support.
I love you. Eoghan is huge. He is sweet and obnoxious and tantrum throwing and so stinking smart it is not funny. Please give kisses to the ones I love and put my love into your work.
Katie
